You know those “negative voices” in your head? The ones that tell you that you “aren’t good enough, that you will mess this up, and on and on and on?” Well, according to Michael Singer from this book The Untethered Soul, you are the listener of those voices…those voices are not you!
A way for you to notice and name those voices in your head is to take the Positive Intelligence and Saboteur Assessments. I have included the link for you to access them at the end of this post. I was fortunate enough to take part in this program recently, and I highly recommend the book Positive Intelligence by Shirzad Chamine. Here are excerpts from the book:
High positive Intelligence means your mind acts as your friend far more than as your enemy. Low positive intelligence is the reverse. Positive Intelligence is therefore an indication of the control you have over your own mind and how well your minds acts in your best interest.
By taking the assessments, you will learn about your saboteurs that get in the way of your mind working in your best interest. Here are the top “negative voices in your head” you will learn about:
Judge: the master saboteur that everyone suffers from. You constantly find fault with yourself and others and everything.
Avoider: You avoid difficult and unpleasant tasks.
Controller: You need to take charge of everything and experience high anxiety and impatience when you cannot.
Hyper-Achiever: You depend on constant high performance and achievement for self-respect and self-validation.
Hyper-Rational: You may focus so much on the rational that you become impatient with people’s emotions.
Hyper-Vigilant: You may feel intense and continuous anxiety about all of the dangers surrounding you and what could go wrong.
Pleaser: You are compelled to gain acceptance by helping, pleasing, recuing, or flattering others constantly.
Restless: You are constantly in search of greater excitement in the next activity or through perpetual business.
Stickler: You have a need for perfection, order, and organization taken too far.
Victim: You feel emotional and temperamental in order to gain attention and affection.
To rid yourself of these voices, you instead need to learn to listen to your sage: the deepest and wisest part of you. It is this part of you that can rise above the fray and resist getting carried away by the drama and the tension of the moment or the saboteurs’ voices in your head.
The top five sage powers are:
Explore with great curiosity and an open mind. (My favorite).
Empathize with yourself and others, bringing compassion and understanding to any situation.
Innovating and creating new perspectives.
Navigating and choosing a path that best aligns with your values and mission
Activating by taking decisive actions without the chatter of your negative voice or the saboteurs.
And my own: sense of humor and not taking yourself so seriously
Finally, reconfigure your brain through somatic PQ activities like wiggling your toes, or rubbing your index and thumb fingers together to feel the fingerprint ridges, or deep breathing for ten seconds. I know it sounds odd, but by doing these simple hacks, you are rewiring your brain to not listen to those negative voices and instead intentionally call upon your sage voices to be your best self.
Here is the link to take the PQ Assessment as well as the Saboteur Assessment. And here is my shameless marketing: let me know if you want to do a PQ Team Building Process virtually…it is a total blast.